Karmanova Zh.A., Nefedova О.А.

Karaganda state university the name of Е.А. Buketova, Kazakhstan

Influence of juvenile crisis on межличностные relationships and relations with adults

On development of personality of teenager sense of adultness renders very strong influence. But an adultness can be external(emulating adults, manner of behavior, in a clothing) and internal. Realization itself as a valuable, equal in rights member of society, realizing right and duties, moral ripening, mastering of public requirements.

A teenager has an idea that he already not child, he aims to be and be considered to the adults, but he does not have a valuable adultness yet, he understands yet not to the end, that means to «be to the adults»(acceleration).

This new formation is the basic line of development of personality of teenager, she determines vital position, necessities, reasons, aspirations and experiencing [1].

A teenager must master new norms, requirements, rules are the behaviors accepted in society of adults. Ideas about an own adultness are formed for a child as a result of comparison itself with a man that he counts to the adults(intermingling with a comrade that older him).

Claims of teenager on new rights spread foremost to his relationships with adult. He does not want to execute former requirements, offended, protests, when him are guardian, control, limit his independence. For a teenager self-respect, that in the critical situation of «opposition» becomes strained adults, begins to be formed. He already is not arranged by the relations folded before, in childhood. He requires confession of his rights on independence, he is burdened by dependence on adult. In a juvenile period there is passing to the new type of mutual relations. He can take place in a different form(obstinacy, rudeness).

Solved by mutual agreement transition - when the adult reconstructs the attitude toward a teenager, accepts him in the «world of adults», gives certain independence to him. If adult to aim to save former style, then he comes across protest of teenager. Despotism of adult can cause aspiration to pay to him for suppression of personality(negativism, wrecking) or «won» back on other weak for a teenager. A teenager ignores well-known to him norms and requirements(it is impossible - I will be) consciously, to prove the force, he shows that too strong and can rule above someone(humiliates weak, harms, leaves from home). He finds a method allowing to enter round of prohibitions adult - begins to lie, adapt, pretend(does not want to go to school - is ill) to be. Estrangement grows, he retreats into oneself, in the offense [2].

«Difficult teenagers» are children at that this conflict flows especially sharply. The root of such behavior is covered in the mutual relations of teenager and adult.

Position of adult attracts a teenager not only the internal maintenance but also external descriptions. A teenager emulates adults in manners, acts : smoking, use of wine, special lexicon, adult hair-dos and clothing, cosmetic, decoration, types of rest, entertainments(maps), interrelation between the representatives of different sex(appointments, caring for). It is the simplest method of acquisition of adultness, mainly, that it was visible to all. A teenager considers that it attaches him to the world of adults.

Communication to become more important, than studies that moves aside on the second plan. A teenager begins to break from home to the comrades, applies on freedom of choice of friends. He to aim to protect this sphere from encroachment of adults. Tactless intervention from adults causes protest, resistance. For a teenager a new necessity appears: to have close friend and be accepted, confessed in the circle of comrades. Absence of friends, non-acceptance of him in a collective - this same strong trauma, defiant experiencing.

Not in forces to realize the activity among adults, a child tries to do it in the circle of friends. Exactly on this teenager more important that, how he is estimated by friends, but not adults. Most unpleasant for a teenager is this conviction by a collective, boycott, unwillingness to communicate. Teenager by all means, to aim to find to itself friends at school, out of school, among the persons of the same age or more junior. Liking among coevals a teenager tries to conquer of different ways: demonstrates force, clothing, by a cunning, heroism, boastfulness etc. But gradually on the first plan other criteria begin to be pulled out. Teenagers begin to estimate friends on their personal qualities, to win respect it is needed to be a good comrade(there can be «high not achievers», and not «strong»).

In the groups teenagers set certain rules, traditions that needs to be strictly observed. Treason to the comrade and group, unwillingness to observe rules, egoism reprobated strictly. A teenager is interested in respect and acceptance of him in a collective, therefore he aims to execute all requirements of group. Quite often it results in appearance of negative quality - conformism.

As a rule, a leader, most authoritative teenager, always stands at the head of group of teenagers, he sets direction of this group(very badly, if it is a teenager with negative behavior).

In teens friendship appears between boys and girls. Teenagers begin to be interested in other sex, a desire to be liked, in this connection, interest in the appearance appears. This interest is expressed on anything: first boys begin to tug at braids, anger girls; timidity, shyness, affected indifference, «contempt», appears then; later(to a 6-7 class) the first romantic appear to attachment, friendship between boys and girls.

Notably: for girls it is very important as they are estimated by boys; for boys more important confession among boys.

Appearance of friendship results in that a teenager begins attentively to look closely to the coevals, analyse the state, feelings, tries to be better. It renders very strong influence on consciousness of teenager [3].

Thus, in teens a crisis certainly influences on the dynamics of becoming of both межличностных relations and relationships with adults that in a great deal depend on certain social situations.

Literature:

1. Kraig G. Psihologiya razvitiya. - SPb.: Piter, 2000. - 992 p.

2. Kronik А.А., Golovaha Е.I. Psihologicheskii vozrast lichnosti. - SPb., 2000. - 645 p.

3. Karmanova Zh.А. Kurs lekcii po discipline «Psihologiya razvitiya»: Karaganda state univ. - Karaganda, 2006. - 13 lekcii.